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Toxic people thrive for drama and expect you to be a part of it. But you always have the power to step back and say “no more.” Toxic people are emotional vampires. Their constant presence negatively impacts the way you think and act. It’s good to be compassionate and generous to people who really need it, however, toxic people will take advantage of this nature and emotionally scar you if you’re not careful. It’s important to identify these negative individuals and cut them off as soon as possible. Here’s how you know. 1. They Emotionally Exhaust You Have you ever spent time with a friend or family member and feel exhausted after that? If the answer is yes, then you’ve got a toxic person on hand. Toxic people have an uncanny knack for draining you emotionally. This they do with their woe-is-me stories or through constant backbiting of another person that you don’t really have an issue with. However, they are all about themselves, so don’t expect anything in retur

When I was in my late teens and early twenties, I had tunnel vision and expected life to be a certain way. I studied my failures until I lost sight of my successes. I surrendered my dreams to feel a sense of comfort. I held tight to my fears and shielded myself from love and happiness by refusing to put myself out there. And as I did all of this, I sat back and wondered why life was so miserable. Obviously, I was very lost. My own toxic beliefs and ensuing behaviors had gotten the best of me. But after some extensive soul-searching, lots of reading, and diligent daily practice, I learned to do things differently, and I found myself again. I tell you this because I know you struggle with similar inner demons – we all do. Sometimes the ideas and habits we get comfortable with end up killing us inside. As a veteran life coach who has now spent the better part of a decade coaching thousands of people online and offline, I realize that many of the toxic beliefs I struggl

You may not realize when you are being manipulated, since manipulative people are good at what they do. These people use particular phrases that make them seem like they are totally harmless. Here’re the common phrases manipulators use, as well as how to stop them in their tracks: #1 “You are acting crazy.” They want to get into your head as well as make it seem like you do not know what you are talking about. Whenever you try to bring up a problem you have, they’ll usually respond with “You are acting crazy”, or say something similar. These people can also say that you are irrational. Solution: Stay collected and calm. Even though you may get more and more frustrated, you should state your position calmly and clearly and avoid getting caught up in attempting to prove that you are being rational. #2 “See what you made me do.” It’s among the most common phrases that manipulators use. It does make them seem like they aren’t in control of their actions. They wa

The months post-breakup are hard. They can feel confusing and lonely, and it’s normal to start to wonder if breaking up was really the right decision. At some point, whether we admit it or not, we begin to consider if we should work things out with him. Here are five reasons why breaking up was the right decision, and you probably should have done it sooner! His immaturity For him, it always seemed like life was all fun and games; he never wanted to be serious. When the situation was serious, he brushed it off like it was no big deal. He didn’t understand that everything isn’t always a joke. He acted 10 years younger than his actual age. He was never “wrong” He always got into situations that made you uncomfortable. When you asked him about them, he would respond, “It’s not like that.” He would never understand where you were coming from and would insist that you were wrong, and he was right. He would hang out with people you didn’t get along with, do things you

You probably face various responsibilities, both professional and personal, which sometimes push you close to your limits. So, you should mitigate stressors, which threaten your physical, mental and emotional health. Like toxins in the environment, negative, toxic people may cause serious harm. But, there’s not any type of “warning”, which educates you on the threats toxic people pose. This means that you should rely on your instincts, judgment, or will to counteract them. Some are better at dealing with toxic people than others; because they are emotionally intelligent and act adequately. Here Is How Smart People Handle Toxic People #1 Smart People Are Self-Aware Being self-aware is a potent prevention tool that allows smart people to understand, acknowledge, and account for external or internal influences, which threats to “throw them off their game.” #2 They Are Solution-Oriented Focusing our mind on problems bring more of them. As it is said: “You attract

1. They make you feel guilty for being unhappy. Anytime you are anything other than exceptionally pleased with them, they become aggravated because they not only can’t handle your emotions, they can’t cope with the idea that they are somehow responsible for them. 2. They make you doubt yourself. They make you feel like you are less capable, and as though you are unworthy. Though they don’t say those words specifically, their actions make it clear that they believe they are better than you in every way. 3. They make you take on their emotional labor. They unload their problems on you and expect understanding, sympathy, and guidance, but when you do the same, they shut you down and tell you to just cope with it. 4. They correct you about anything and everything. If you listen closely, they don’t respond to nearly anything you say with a nod of agreement or affirmation. They always have to add in a counterpoint or imply that there’s something you don’t understa